The Unconventional Odyssey to Confidence Coaching
My 100-Day Blueprint
Hey there, fellow adventurers in the quest for self-assurance! Ever wondered how someone stumbles into becoming a Confidence Coach? Spoiler alert: it involves a mix of happy accidents, 'aha' moments, and maybe one too many cups of coffee. Let me take you on a whirlwind tour of my journey to Confidence Coaching and unveil my master plan for our 100-day expedition of turning my followers from “Shy to Fly!”
The 'Lightbulb' Moment
It all started on a lazy Sunday morning. Picture this: me in my favorite pajamas, coffee in hand, pondering over life. Then, bam! A thought struck me like a wayward frisbee – what if I could channel my passion for empowering others into something bigger?
Haha, I wish my story was that easy… My story actually starts with the dissolution of 10-year romantic relationship in September 2023, and that’s what go me to ponder “my purpose” in life. While I was lamenting the end of a relationship, my ex highlighted my lack of purpose in life. Maybe he was right? A few therapy sessions later, I realized that I had spent the past decade helping someone else work toward their dream and had put mine on the back-burner. But, what was my dream…
What did I want to do? Who did I want to be? I guess I was starting fresh at 36… Yikes!
As I reflected upon everything that I did - educating, writing textbooks, running an Airbnb, leading tours - I found that there was one thing that I did well with each venture. The common denominator is that I bring energy and confidence to whatever I’m working on and I have the power to inspire people.
Recognizing this was a full-blown, LED-powered revelation. And thankfully, this revelation happened as I began teaching social media courses at Onondaga Community College.
Do you like the picture above? Labor Day weekend 2023 is when my relationship ended and this new journey began. Future me will be thankful that I documented this.
The Confidence Alchemy
Next up in my tale is the alchemy of transforming self-doubt into golden confidence. Imagine a mad scientist's lab, but instead of beakers and Bunsen burners, it's filled with tools like positive psychology, affirmations, and a dash of daring. When I first started Hunky Neighbor in early 2022, I niched-down and tried to focus on helping individuals build habits. At the time I was inspired by the book “Atomic Habits,” which, seriously, it’s a fabulous read! Yet, for me, chatting about “habits” wasn’t authentic and it felt too confining - also, do I really have the best habits?
Flash-forward to the start of the 2023-2024 academic year, and I was requiring my students in my Introduction to Social Media course to post on Instagram once per week. I told them, “Everything that you are required to post, I’ll do the exact same thing.” Throughout my posts and classroom experiences this semester, I came to the realization that I empower people with confidence.
This all clicked at the same time “Tube Girl” was blowing up on TikTok!
Before I knew it, I was mapping out my journey to helping my followers become more confident, and who knows, maybe I’ll be just as successful as Sabrina Bahsoon (aka Tube Girl).
The 100-Day Master Plan
Now, fasten your seatbelts as we unveil the pièce de résistance – the 100-Day Plan! Think of it as the treasure map to unearthing your self-belief, and for me, a 100-Day Plan to get better at making TikTok videos and learning how to edit content.
This isn't your average X-marks-the-spot deal; it's more like a theme park map brimming with exciting rides. Throughout my journey, I’m going to document how my confidence has changed, my ah-ha moments with social media, and pinpoint the challenges I faced along the way. Yep, I’ll share it all with you and we're talking about practical exercises, reflective pit-stops, and maybe even some virtual high-fives along the way. Also, we’ll find out what actually works and trends on social media!!
Also, at some point, I’ll come back to this post and link all my videos below 🙌🙌🙌
November: Embracing Your Foundation
Introduction: The Power of Self-Belief
The Science Behind Confidence
Why Self-Awareness is the First Step
Celebrating Your Achievements (big and small)
Recognizing Your Strengths
Confronting Self-Doubt
Setting Boundaries
The Importance of Self-Care
Reflecting on Past Successes
Embracing Vulnerability
Learning to Say No
Your Inner Circle: The Confidence Boosters
Daily Affirmations
Recognizing Negative Triggers
Building Resilience
The Role of Physical Health in Confidence
The Impact of Dressing Well
Good Posture: A Quick Confidence Boost
Meditation and Mindfulness
Accepting Compliments Graciously
Learning from Mistakes
The Value of Self-Reflection
Setting Realistic Goals
Celebrating Thanksgiving with Gratitude
Making Peace with Your Past
Overcoming the Fear of Failure
Engaging in New Hobbies
Networking with Confidence
Sharing Your Achievements
November Recap: Key Takeaways
December: Building Strong Habits
Crafting a Confidence-Boosting Morning Routine
The Power of Visualization
Engaging in Acts of Kindness
Taking Breaks to Recharge
Exploring New Places Alone
Reading Confidence-Building Literature
Avoiding Overcommitment
Setting and Respecting Your Own Limits
Nurturing Positive Relationships
Minimizing Social Media Comparisons
Facing A Fear
Cultivating a Growth Mindset
Keeping a 'Wins' Journal
The Role of Music in Boosting Confidence
Building Financial Confidence
Overcoming Social Anxiety
Taking on Leadership Roles
Learning to Accept Constructive Criticism
Public Speaking: Tips and Techniques
Building Trust in Relationships
Winter Solstice: Celebrating Your Inner Light
Seeking Mentorship
Offering Mentorship to Others
Reflecting on 2024 Goals
Embracing Christmas with Confidence
Letting Go of What Doesn’t Serve You
Empowering Others
Reinventing Yourself
Revisiting and Refining Goals
Year-End Recap: Celebrating Growth
New Year's Eve: Welcoming 2024 with Open Arms
January: Flourishing into the New Year
Embracing the New Beginning
Setting Monthly Confidence Goals
Visualizing End-of-Year You
Crafting a Confidence Vision Board
Building Physical Strength and Confidence
Cultivating Emotional Intelligence
Breaking Big Goals into Manageable Steps
Expanding Your Comfort Zone
Investing in Continuous Learning
Replacing Negative Thoughts with Positive Ones
Engaging in Group Activities or Workshops
Celebrating Small Wins
Overcoming the 'Impostor Syndrome'
Respecting and Loving Yourself
Seeking Feedback
Strengthening Your Decision-Making Skills
Nurturing Passion Projects
Keeping Promises to Yourself
Building a Confidence-Boosting Evening Routine
Prioritizing Mental Well-being
Engaging in Meaningful Conversations
Reinforcing Positive Affirmations
Preparing for Challenges
Supporting Others in Their Confidence Journey
Reflecting on January's Progress
Embracing Change with Confidence
Building Up Others
Recognizing and Overcoming Burnout
Embracing Single-tasking over Multi-tasking
Consistency in Confidence Practices
January Recap: Welcoming February with Renewed Vigor
February: Cultivating Deeper Connections
Understanding the Impact of Your Communication Style
The Art of Active Listening
Developing a Positive Online Presence
Balancing Professional and Personal Life
Cultivating a Culture of Gratitude
Enhancing Emotional Vocabulary
Navigating Difficult Conversations with Confidence
Celebrating Love and Relationships
So, there you have it – the inside scoop on how a regular dude named “Benjamin” decided to don the cape of a Confidence Coach. But this story isn't just mine; it's about to be ours. As we embark on this 100-day adventure - which starts November 1st - I invite you to be my co-navigator. Let’s chart these uncharted waters of confidence together, and who knows? We might just discover some hidden treasures within ourselves.